Granted, it may seem as though they are too busy, nonchalant or simply unavailable when you attempt to approach them for any semblance of interaction.

This can be tough on even the most free-thinking parents and caregivers. Oddly enough, it is also challenging on our youth.

Yes, they enjoy the freedom that being on their own can bring. For our children, doing what they want, when they want, with whom they want and how they want can be a giddy experience of maturity and self-reliance.

For parents, this freedom can include hanging up the chauffeur's hat, finally having a clean home and being able to vacuum au naturel without fear of "guests" suddenly appearing in the living room.

Yes, freeing in many ways it is. It can also be lonely.

It is important to maintain some contact and interaction within our families, even if there is distance involved. Take a moment to call and connect, leave a kind voice message or text, or make plans to have dinner together at home or in a restaurant. This can make the difference between feeling unwanted or unloved and feeling included and loved.

Yes, it is true that making plans with a teen can be a harrowing experience, but, with perseverance and patience, it can be done.

Despite their often distant attitudes, teens do enjoy connecting with their parents, even if just for a few minutes.

Making connection time relaxed and easy is key. Hit a bucket of balls at the driving range, or go to a movie. Shopping can be a great way to share some time in one another's company.

When parents and teens do get together, it is important to interact from a friendly perspective. Choose to talk about playful events and experiences. This will create an environment of effortless trust and open communication.

These "play dates" are not the time to begin the latest tirade about going back to school or doing laundry. You would be surprised, though, how a few peace-filled outings can give conversations about life's more serious side a whole new feeling and look.

Jasmine Iwaszkiewicz specializes in youth counselling. Her website is www.beingu.ca. Questions for her can be sent to mirror@simcoe.com.